why are the good guys worst in bed?


I just spent the night with a very nice, fairly attractive, appreciative, complimentary man that I have a lot in common with. He loves to make out, snuggle, stroke, touch and manages to find the clit too. I feel like high school though. Lots of working me up, getting me hot and ready and…not bringing the goods! Yes, we had intercourse, but there were only about two satisfying strokes – the rest were shallow and slow – because he was trying not to cum. Okay, I understand this, but fellas, let me say this: when I’m that worked up and ready I would rather have 1 minute of nice, hard & deep pounding that 5 minutes of tentative & shallow strokes. Though five minutes may be a generous estimate on my part. To his credit, he did say that he didn’t want to give a bad first impression, so he went down on me for a good while. But it was again very tender and torturous. I finally had to ask him if he would finger me while tonguing me. Cripes! I wanted to call in a backup dick but felt it might be offensive to break out a big dildo and fuck myself with it at this point in the “relationship”. But I wanted to!!

I even managed to sleep well with this guy – a rarity! I awoke to him pulling me into his arms in a spoon position, kissing the back of my neck, rubbing me. Wet as hell, I settle myself so his dick is against the crook of my ass and give a little wriggle and moan. This usually does the trick for initiating morning sex. No dice. He went so far as to unwrap a condom and I went so far as to give him some oral stimulation, but he just never managed to get full wood. Finally I gave up.

Argh – there’s potential here, but I am afraid that I just set myself up for FWB with guy who is really into me and wants to be a regular but who doesn’t deliver in the fashion to which I have become accustomed. Just one of many reasons that I refuse to have an exclusive deal with anyone!

7 Responses to “why are the good guys worst in bed?”

  1. 1 sexbandtherapy
    March 15, 2013 at 1:17 pm

    This happens to me A LOT! I tend to be able to tell if they are going to tank in bed though by their kissing. Usually the two go somewhat hand in hand.

  2. 4 Mancakes
    March 19, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    Train him. Clearly no one else has. 🙂

    • March 19, 2013 at 12:34 pm

      I will be working on it on Friday! He also made a reference to taking his “dick drugs” this time. Not sure if that was a good-spirited, self-deprecating joke (in which case, good for him,) or whether he was serious – in which case, good for me! Either way, I let him know that if he was unable to perform that I would be very willing to employ other methods. Could have simply been first-time jitters too. I’m certainly willing to train the willing. 😉

      • 6 Mancakes
        March 19, 2013 at 12:46 pm

        Your rock. and you know what they say… if he has an erection that last more than four hours consult his physician. (Or just ride the hell out of it.) 😉

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