So, assume you’re a man that I’ve had very excellent casual sex with (with sleepovers,) three or four times. I’m interested in maybe upgrading slightly from booty call every month or two. How would you feel if I said “hey, I really enjoy the time we spend together & would love to add you to my regular rotation.”
That’s pretty non-threatening, right? Basically, I dig fucking you & would like to do it on a more consistent basis but don’t want to be your girlfriend or anything.
Though I do like this one as a person too & don’t mind the idea of being social together either.
I would live your thoughts on this one!
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I wouldn’t put it that way. I have men that I see regularly but usually just letting him know I am interested in seeing him again works. Men always keep coming back as long as they are enjoying it, no need to make him feel like just another dick in the hole, lol. They usually ask about if you are seeing other guys and as long as you make it clear you are not ready to settle down but would like to see him or tell him to hit you up when he wants to get together again, he will. Or just text out of the blue and a lot of times they get the hint that you are wanting some. 😉