Posts Tagged ‘misandry

13
Jun
13

Mysogyny, misandry, feminism and dating – points to ponder

Interesting op-ed about the Seattle dating scene: http://seattletimes.com/html/opinion/2021142903_daniellecampoamoropedxml.html

Very interesting response to this particular op-ed: http://mikejackwrites.wordpress.com/2013/06/13/the-seattle-dating-scene-why-men-wont-ask-women-out/

More terrific insight on the subject: http://jezebel.com/5992479/if-i-admit-that-hating-men-is-a-thing-will-you-stop-turning-it-into-a-self+fulfilling-prophecy

One of the arguments made herein is essentially that some Seattle men, being so progressive, don’t wish to offend or scare women by approaching them and asking them on a date. Personally, I appreciate a man who embraces a feminist perspective and has empathy for women who may have been abused, victimized, raped, ogled or otherwise marginalized. However, I think that a man (or any romantic partner, for that matter,) who is overly sensitive in trying to “protect” a woman from his advances is underestimating a woman’s ability to make her own choices and use her own voice. Making that decision for her is akin to saying “I know what’s best for you” and deciding without her consent.

Just ask.

Trust her to be healthy enough to respond appropriately. If she’s not? Run like hell, my friend.

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